After a second helping of the Christmas dinner lasagna, I felt as round as the blow-up snowman on our deck that stoically waves to passersby. I adjusted my stuffed body on the couch and grumbled, “I designate 2012 as the year of not saying Thank You.”
Now, I know I’m not an etiquette queen, but jeeze, do folks no longer find it necessary to simply utter “thank you” once in a while? Are thank you notes a thing of the past? Heck, one can even email a gratitude in less than 10-seconds. Make it 3-seconds and text an emoticon. Facebook works too. Thank you is the art of re-gifting.
In this over-the-top busy world I’m easily flattered by kind words or surprise gifts. So much so that I either turn slightly embarrassed by my excited drool and attempt to brush off the compliment, or I transform into a gushing thank you geyser. But thank you will come forth, regardless. This, however, doesn’t earn me a crown. In fact, I’m sure I’ve missed plenty of thank you re-gifting opportunities in the past.
If you are reading this blog, you are not of the no-thank-you crowd. This probably does not apply to you.
But of those folks who received a good deal of energy and time from either myself or spouse and have yet to acknowledge our efforts, did they expect this freely-given time as a matter of principle? Be mindful that I am not looking for plaques, certificates or adulation. A simple thank you works wonders, however.
And I wonder if those folks who received a gift via post from me, hated the gift or wish that the gift wasn’t sent in the first place, because, I never received a thank you or blank-you note.
Yes, I am whining! And I know I’m not the only person paddling upstream here. An unplanned recent conversation with several other persons, proclaimed the same sentiment. One woman, who I know spends most of her time giving, confidentially admitted, “I give for the love of giving, and I give because I can. But would a little thank you note kill them?”
This lament determines my resolution for 2013: I will thank everyone–for even the most simple kind deed. Perhaps, along with the amazing generosity of our society, those two words will bring our tiny spaces a smile and a sense of worth that eventually births more goodwill.